She’s Out Of My Life

Once in a while, I come across an article such as this and it brings back memories of a person I would rather say I only have good memories of. However, actions and choices have decided that the final memory would be of her turning her back to me. An action done with such dramatical emphasis that another colleague could notice, and I still do not understand the point of it.

Almost everyone who knows us wonders what happened, and sometimes I wonder myself. I can only tell my side of the story and speculate on her actions. I dare say only one other person would know all the drama as she got the blow by blow reports when the mini drama series happened. Then possibly another 7 that know why the friendship ended.

When I looked back on the "reports" I gave to another friend while the drama queen was having hissy fits, they were probably the little cracks that lead to the big break. However, after a little sharing session at work, it became clear that I had only half of the iceberg. Seems that for years, she was hiding her issues behind her title and privileges. Then with a new job and position, with the lack of opportunity to pull off the tricks she did while running her own show, the cracks started showing. Throwing hissy fits at a very specific time of the month, with nothing to do with PMS. Then finally, the pressure got too much and apparently her mind blew up.

I have always wondered why her attitude changed. If it was the people she now had in her life, her new job position, her slight demotion in job position, the lust for power or some other luxury, or just ego. There was a time when we would just tell each other about anything, even try to figure out other friends by talking about them to each other. She got my back, I got hers.

Then I saw the quote below and realised perhaps the relationship was a little dysfunctional on her end. Also realising that perhaps telling her that I used up my savings for my grandfather’s funeral trip might have been the trigger that set it all off. 

“A healthy relationship is one where two people feel fulfilled by their individual lives and let that joy and sense of fullness spill into their relationship. They each bring something to the table and can comfortably give and receive. A dysfunctional relationship is when one or both people believes the other person can “give them” something or that there’s something to “get” from the other person.”

Strangely enough, I was not sad, but slightly amused at the drama. I was disappointed and frustrated, but her actions took care of making us happy to have her leave. What I cannot believe is her gall at still being friends with my mom, but my mom has her own agenda. 

Not Worth A Post

Once again, I start blogging about something and I get stuck.

Perhaps it is the lack of focus. I feel I am going all over the place and not sticking to the original topic I started off with.

Then again, this is about letting all the thoughts just flow out.

Maybe I just have nothing worth writing about.

Time shall tell.

Rollercoaster 2017

Got to learn more about what it takes to run your own company. 

What not to do, and that sometimes its better to be a little late than jump the gun on certain issues. 

Mighty glad that I did not have to put a cent into getting this lesson. 

Learnt that even the best of friendships cannot last if one side just doesn't want to communicate. 

That an ego has blown up so big that it cannot deflate to ask for help. 

It ended with a big drama which only showed everyone how far into the honey pot your fingers were stuck. 

Made some new relationships due to the job. 

Some might just be work-related but some have already been much more sisterly. 

Glad some of them still think of me after I no longer run the cafe. 

Skilled up on reading people a little more. 

Being a little nosey and asking a bit more is better sometimes. 

The way people treat someone who serves no purpose to them tells you a lot. 

Got to share the menu with a few friends from Australia.

Happy they actually liked the coffee. 

Maybe I should just open shop in Australia. 

Attended some awesome food festivals. 

Try out food from Michelin-starred restaurants & chefs. 

Cook and experiment with interesting new products. 

Saw my niece compete in the SEA Games. 

Learnt that some people have bad sportsmanship. 

Glad my niece is above that behaviour. 

Got to go back to Hong Kong. 

I love Hong Kong Island more. 

Dong Leng Mong Cha Zhao Teem!!!

Australian Invasion part 2!

Great to have them come here instead of always heading there. 

Ate a lot of food all around Singapore. 

Had my dog choke to death right at my foot. 

Pulled out the bit of gizzard he choked on. 

Revived him with some compressions and a few breaths of air without really knowing doggy CPR. 

Back to KL again for a food trip. 

Sometimes family can be so embarrassing. 

Family did not know walking to eat till I came along. 

Full force Christmas Party with an Eurasian theme. 

Half force NYE party with Pizza, Cheese, Pasta & Chicken Wings. 

What a crazy 2017!