All In The Past

I've always questioned why is it that people, even though they might have just met me for the very first time, would open up and start telling me their life story, or what ever it is that is bugging them. I guess I've got used to being caught in that situation one too many times to even stop and tell the other person that I'm not a walking problem-solver nor am I a psychologist (well maybe not yet.. hehe). Then, if they still keep in contact, I basically end up listening to them whenever their life hits turbulence.

I would say I'm almost immune to all of the stories and people asking for some advice, but what I can't stand is when people complain about things, and worse is when I shouldn't be listening to it. There is a certain amount of information which should be kept private, especially if I'm related to the person. Don't expect me to be neutral when I know the both of you, and because of that, I know you are both liars that blow things out of proportion. I still don't know exactly what happened, because neither of you can tell a straight story, and both sides don't ever seem to tally.

Sometimes what happened years ago should just be kept in the past and not dug up just because of something the other person did yesterday. I don't have to be in one to know that relationships are tough to maintain as friendships are just as fragile. I also know that it takes 2 hands to clap and you would obviously know why the two of you went your separate ways. If you're so stupid as to let go of a relationship you held so dear without finding out the reason he/she decided to end it, then you obviously didn't care that much. So don't say that he/she ended the relationship and be bitter about it. Did you try to stop it when it happened or did you just agree and went on to feel sorry for yourself?

Another thing is to act like an ass and think that you were being smart/sarcastic. You would have succeeded if people actually got your sarcasm, but you are just being a fool if you had to explain your behaviour, and seem just childish when you do it in retaliation to something your ex said when he/she was just being nice. You're obviously too bitter and haven' moved on although you might have a new bf/gf. Telling yourself and the rest of the world that you've moved on doesn't mean that you really have. To move on is to let go of the past and not be affected by your ex so much you have to call me the next day to talk for hours complaining about the things he/she did to you the day before, as well as years ago.

Another thing I don't like is when people try to brag about themselves and their lives while telling me how sorry their life has been. It just doesn't go together! One minute you're telling me how sad/angry/depressed you are, and the next thing you're telling me you've accomplished a lot of things and you're happy where you are. You just contradict yourself and just seem really lost to me. Why do you think I want to hear about your accomplishments, when I didn't even ask about you in the first place? Think about it... I didn't even ask to know about you and you started telling me all the sob stories. If you've really achieved something in your life, you don't have to toot your own horn as it will speak for itself.

I can say that I'll be there for you when you need me, but don't test my patience or make me take sides when you're complaining about a relationship-gone-wrong with someone who's actually related to me. It's just not cool to put me in a situation like that if you expect me to listen to you whine again. Leave the past where is was....

Grow Up! Let Go! Move On!