There seems to be a few people in my life who think that they can take advantage of me, or just take me for granted. I'm not sure if it's the way I live my life or just the image that some people get about me from the things I do. So what is my life like right now? Well I basically have a part-time job and I am studying part-time as well. It might not sound like it's a very packed schedule when you put them apart, but think about it this way - work almost everyday, for most part of the day till 6pm, then do research or attend classes at night till 10pm. Good thing about studying and working part-time is that I have a rather flexible schedule that allows me to take short trips but that also depends a lot on my school term.
Now what sparked me off to write this post was the very person that caused me grief in my Bugger Off post. What did Bozo do? He made an appointment to meet me on the 13th so that I could pass him something for his mom and some things I got him from my trip. He was supposed to meet me at my workplace so that we could just hop over and have a burger after I was done with work. But lo and behold, I finished my shift and Bozo was no where in sight. So I gave him a call only to find out that my call actually woke him up. Instead of just telling me that he would take about an hour to get ready and get his arse down, he just tells me that he'll call me later, which, after asking, was to be a few hours later. Already pissed that he didn't even bother setting an alarm, I told him to forget it and not to meet me later as I had a last minute invite to dinner with a few ex-classmates.
I ended up staying around my workplace to talk to my colleague and it started drizzling, which made me decide to call him again to check if he could make it down within the hour. He then tells me, after rounding the mulberry bush a few times, that they made him some food and he HAS to eat it. That was it! When you make an appointment and you wake up late it's already bad enough. But when you're supposed to meet and have something to eat, then u tell me you HAVE to eat what they made you when you were in the shower then don't bother explaining to me anything, groveling or try to sweet talk me into meeting you later.
The next day while online, a conversation was started with a friend, one I most likely won't be bothered if I lost all contact with. She asked if I could have dinner with her next week and I told her I'd have to wait and see. The reason why I didn't say yes right away, although I could, was because she would've asked me to plan the whole thing and let her know. Most likely throwing in a guest list as well as I couldn't make it to a last-minute invite to dinner the evening before. Once I've settled everything, she'll end up the one who wouldn't be able to make it, telling the rest of us that she's too busy that week, or whatever excuse she can come up with. But if I do end up having dinner, I'd end up being the person working behind the desk of the "Complaints" department, instead of eating across the table from a friend. Listening to her grumble about her life and work, while on the other hand she's taking trips around the world when she has the time and money.
Back to the conversation... She then asks if I'm that busy and what I'm busy with. Seriously... Who are you to think I'm that free that I can go out any damn time YOU want when you don't even know what I do these days? Maybe I'm busy avoiding you these days? It wasn't so much the question that pissed me off. It was the whole attitude, just like Bozo's, thinking that I would be free anytime she called. Try giving me a date to work with or at least try to know what the schedule I have is like.
Unlike these 2, I've got a friend who seldom goes out with me, but every time she would contact me, it would be a specific day and time set as she knows that's the time she's free. Plus asking me 2 weeks in advance would ensure that I'd be meeting up with you. Even if half the time I meet with her I end up listening to her troubles, she at least takes the time to ask and listen about what I'm doing in life. But do others actually try? They just whine and gripe and when you try to suggest something, they already have the most pessimistic view on the situation that they just don't bother even listening to what you have to say. How lovely is a one-way conversation? It's honestly not fun for the listening ear.
I wonder if people could actually take it when the really put on my shoes and live my life. I know I live it rather casually but then if I did it any way different I'd probably be in IMH or dead rather than writing this.
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