Mz Independant

How appropriate as I'm thinking up this post that the song comes on and gives it the title. The reason for this is because after hanging out with my friend one night, I got an sms that got me questioning myself, my attitude and/or maybe my ego. So what did the sms say?

"Are you home safe and sound?"

I guess it made me ponder a bit more because of the person that sent it. No he's (yes it's a he) not anyone I'm romantically involved with or would even think about doing so. (So Ms MIA stop dreaming) The reason that got the questions out was that I thought he knew me better than to ask. Then again, this bugger is one who's concerned about the welfare of his friends. Should I have known better then?

The gesture/concern is nice, but just not my cup of tea. After digging deeper into it, I realise that I've never done that unless someone told me to let them know, and I never asked that of anyone. Probably because I take that as long as u can make your way on your own to meet me in the middle of somewhere, you'd be able to make it back on your own safe and sound.

There are some people I know who let me know that they're back home. Most times I would reply just to let them know I got the message, but in actual fact I just want to delete the message and be done with it. As another friend pointed out, when people get used to you letting them know you are alright, you start to ignore it thinking "Oh, she/he is safe at home now." What if that last one was a cry for help or for you to make them feel that bit of security?

Another question that popped up was "Is it rude not to let the other party know?" It would've been nicer of me to let the other person know but there wasn't a request and there is that point just in the former paragraph. My answer to this question was if you wanted to know you could've asked for a reply when I got home, before we parted our ways. No request, no "safely home" note.

Overall I find that this whole thing about letting someone know you're safe is too effeminate for me. Yes, I'm still a female.. but it's too girlish, too insecure, too needy for me. I'm one who doesn't like attention other than when I'm giving a speech, of which I seldom do, or ordering food.

For those of you who want to know my reply, it was:

"Oh no no... I'm stuck in a ditch!"

Still haven't lost the sarcasm