Anyway... back to telling lies. Part of my job scope is basically to lie through my teeth and make people believe that certain things are worth purchasing. As I tell a lot of people, "I lie for a living." - which isn't far from the truth. It's not the entire job, but when somethings have to be sold, the lies come straight out like they're the truth.
Lying, I think, does have a special art to it. When you can actually believe your lie, somehow it slips past the other person much more easily. I wonder if that's the secret behind actors/actresses receiving those nominations? Could it be that they believed that they were actually the person they were supposed to portray? But then again, Hollywood can be rather soft-hearted and give awards away out of sympathy.
Associating acting with lying does bring up a thought. Other than actors/actresses and people who are undercover spies (basically a person who has to pretend to be some other person to get the job done), how sick are the people who actually live two different lives. I'm not talking about someone who has multiple personality disorder*. I'm thinking about someone who lives a lie so much that they believe their own lies to actually live it through, and start doing things they can't afford to do just to show/prove that their lie is true. Confused? Nevermind.
Well what got me on this topic was not a thought about some sicko, but more about lying and thinking that your friend will be stupid enough to fall for it. For some odd reason, some people think I'm gullible enough to believe everything they say. Too bad for them I've learnt to do a lot of info digging, and with the accessibility of the Internet, it's a bit hard to try and fool people, especially for personal gain.
I realised, while I was shopping with some friends, that one of them was a bit full of shit. This person acted like they knew everything and seems like the info given was mainly wrong. I'm not sure if the reason for the info was because this person didn't know better or was just trying to get us to get something that they preferred (personal gain). Somehow I got a warning about this person a long time ago, and I've been keeping my eyes and ears open ever since. I think I've come to a point where this person's opinions don't matter anymore, and careful consideration has to be put in when it comes to releasing any information.
A few months down the road, when this person got something that needed to be put together, I realised maybe this person really didn't know better. But something in the back of my mind kept bugging me about it and made me wonder if it was again for some sort of personal gain. The whole incident wouldn't have allowed for any personal gain however, and this got me feeling insulted. So maybe girls don't usually put things together, but that doesn't mean they can't. What irritated me most was that this person lied and thought that I would believe it like some bimbo.
I think people have to realise that I don't go around telling the whole world what I know. I mean realistically, everyone knows their fair share of information, and have a certain set of skills. Not everyone goes around bragging what they know, and I think people have to realise that they should start assuming that people know what to do. Or rather ask if the person knows how to get something done, rather than assume that they don't and insult the person by treating them like an idiot.
There are other issues with this person, sort of linking lies with personal gain. The thing that really caught my attention was comments on food. So food is subjective, but I'd say that someone would realise that something is a bit too salty/sweet/tart/bitter or just plain strange if they're not out to butter up the cook. The apparently 'great cook' had put too much wine in a pie filling that just didn't go well with it's crust. So how is this for personal gain? Well, flatter the chef and they would probably cook for you, no charge to you, again in the near future. Now if this person has known you for a while and every time they cook for you, you polish up the plate and sing praises, I'm sure you've got free food coming your way for a long time to come. Somehow I believe in giving more honest replies than exclaiming that "THIS IS THE BOMB!" for something that tastes like a molotov cocktail going into your stomach.
A big contrast is like what one friend said about the pie that was served during Christmas, "I wished I wasn't so thin-skinned cos I wanted to take more of the second pie but was afraid there wasn't enough. The second pie was much better than the first." Does that honesty keep her from being invited to the next Christmas party? NO... in fact, if we're going to test out pie recipes, she'll get the call to be in the survey group.
I guess the biggest issue I have with this person is the 'high and mighty' attitude that seems to exude with everything this person says. I'm not sure if it's because this person thinks I'm some naive little girl, that they know a lot, or that fact that they realise that I'm actually smarter than them and is trying to put me down. Whatever the reason is, I'm not liking it.
*Multiple personality is easiest to explain from the clinical viewpoint. Every person has various sides to her nature. She can become aware of her sides if she pays close attention to her moods. Sometimes she is happy, at other times she is sad. Sometimes she is reasonable, at other times she is demanding. Sometimes she is confident, at other times she does not know what to do. Depending on the particular environmental stimuli, one of her moods happens to be dominant in a given situation. All the moods are in mutual contact, influence each other, and perceive themselves as one mind. This is totally normal, but when something causes these neuropsychological entities to become mutually isolated, multiple personality is produced.
Multiple personality disorder (MPD), also known as dissociative identity disorder (DID), is a relatively permanent state of mind; the mind is split into partially or completely isolated neuropsychological modules. Each module has its own memories, emotions, and preferences, and behaves as a unique person. Some modules (called personalities or alters) are aware of the existence of other modules, whereas some personalities believe that they are the only mind in the body.
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