Drawing The Line

How can one ever know when the person you treat as your best friend also feels the same way about you? Another thing is, when does a person actually go from being just a friend, to a best friend? Or when do you decide that you should drop the thought of ever meeting up with certain people?

In my case, I never really had a best friend as I couldn't make up my mind. Plus there was an incident where someone actually accused me of getting "a new best friend". This someone wasn't even considered my best friend, and I don't see why she had to say that when I was telling her about the new people I'm getting to know. I guess that's why I take my time in calling people one of my best friends as 'people who matter - don't mind, and those who mind - don't matter'.

The people I would consider my best friends know me enough to know I don't give a shit about too much things. Maybe that's why I have one of the strangest bunch of people in my besties list. However, not everyone with a quirk can easily fit into the list. There are restrictions on whiners, people who are too narcissistic and/or too conceited, the kind that are too depressed, and the kind that ask the questions that are either too stupid that I'd ignore it, or is so stupid I can't answer without making them feel stupid after. Well so I'm being a bit narcissistic and conceited here... but I don't care because this is my blog after all.

Anyway, I personally don't know how many people in my besties list actually consider me in the same way, but I'm fine even if they don't because they're worth the time and effort I'd gladly give to them. I guess it's the 90%-10% balance thing that determines who you'd consider your best freind, or at least I do. I'm sure if someone who doesn't even return 10% when you've given 90% is not worth keeping. While the people I'd call my besties have given back at least 90% themselves.

Now, what I wonder is if some people know that I don't think of them as my best friend, and if some even know that I actually loath going out with them. If you don't know that I don't really care what people think, don't consider yourself my friend. If after 5 years you still can't spell my name right even when I have it spelled out in full then don't consider yourself my friend. If you don't know after 3 years that my ANNUAL Christmas party is held on the 24th of Dec, at the same location, and especially after I told you about the menu, u know the drill. Don't try to send me on the guilt trip for things u can't remember because if I ever find out the truth, the guilt trip you'll be sent on on might kill you inside. Don't try to tell exaggerated stories to try and see how gullible I am, because I honestly didn't bother listening to your bullshit and was just nodding off as my brain took a nap. You people in this last group isn't even worth my 10%, which I rather just keep for myself.

Another Year Has Passed

Rochelle

Another year older & (hopefully) wiser.

Lucky I'm In Love With My Best Friend... Lucky... Arrrrgggh!

Love - how is it that one subject that is supposed to be on the other spectrum of hate can garner so much of it that it starts to frustrate someone?

Well this all started after a car ride listening to the particular song "Lucky" over and over again, that I've got to the point where I find the song and the subject rather disgusting. I would understand how some people say that they're in love with and marrying their best friend. But sometimes too much of a good thing is just not good.

Anyway, getting frustrated about the song and all is another story. What got me thinking was something Mandy said to Eddie this morning that made me realise a few more things about the treasured bunch I have, and all this jazz about being in love with your best friend. I can't remember what exactly Mandy said, but it was about the guy friends I invite to my xmas parties over the years. Then some sort of discussion in between and after narrowing everybody down, Eddie is the only single, available, heterosexual guy that is invited as my friend to the xmas party. That's also to say that he is the only guy that I can attach such labels to with regards to the people in my treasured list. So that's to say that if I should fall in love with my best friend, Eddie would be the only option. Well in this case, I'd say Eddie is the guy after my own heart. As he put it to someone before, I'm a female version of him. I could say I love him to bits as a friend, as someone with very similar interests, but when it comes to being in love with him, I'd say I don;t seem to be swinging in his direction. Plus I really would like to keep it that way as I seriously enjoy what I've got right now.

As for the other guy in the list, the 'problem' with him is that he's homosexual, or at least what I've heard anyway. Although he hasn't told me personally that he is, he's too effeminate for my tastes. Personality-wise, he's like my sister with regards to all the shopping, fashion, and vanity, and too fussy an eater for me to be in love with. As I've told Amy before, I don't care how handsome someone can be, but I can't stand a guy who's has more facial products alone compared to the hair, facial and body products I have in total. Ok, so that's a bit of an exaggeration but when we travel, his toiletries bag is at least twice the size of mine, and I'm not carrying travel-sized bottles of lotions. Anyway, what I love about him is his love for pastas. The man after my own stomach this time?

Then there's the one person that got me thinking really hard. The one person who looks and acts like a guy, but is a girl. Now she's the one that made me stop and really think of a whole lot of "what if" questions. What if she was a real guy? If she was, I think that I could fall in love with this one. Personality-wise, I'd say she has a lot of qualities that are right up there on my checklist. So what's the problem here? Other than having to turn lesbian, nothing really. As with all my other treasures, I love her as well, just that I'd rather not ever cross lines, complicate things, and lose a perfectly great friendship - which reminds me why the song disgusted me in the first place. Somehow I rather keep a great friendship the way it is than try to take it a step further, fail and have the friendship fall apart.

It's rather strange that among the 3 different personalities, they've got a strange mix of masculinity with femininity. Eddie is the man's man that is 'in touch with his feminine side' to a certain degree that girls seem to like to call him up for bridesmaid's duties... or maybe he's just good at entertaining and bargaining? Number 2 seems to have an equal balance of both ends, while number 3 is all female but seriously in touch with the testosterone running through her veins. :P

Merry Christmas One And All!

Hope Santa has brought you all the things you wanted.

Another Reason To Stick To SIA When Heading To Australia

So maybe I'm biased when it comes to the flights I decide to take while on holiday. Other than the miles I gain from my travels, I do like the fact that certain flights do come with your own personal entertainment. However, after reading that another Qantas flight goes into trouble after take-off, it just shows me that sticking to SIA to travel to Australia is a good choice.

25th July

2nd September

7th October

It's the 4th incident within the year, and those are the ones that were reported world-wide. Apparently it is because the airline is using really old planes. Well if that's the case, when will they start changing to a new fleet? Before or after a major crash?

Where Do You Think You Stand?

Some people are better off forgotten, some best if they're out of your life, others just need to show they're still alive, and a handful will be treasured for a lifetime.

In this time where almost everyone you know seems to be on some networking site like Facebook, it's not hard to find out the number of people you know. Just counting the number of people I know through school, and school-related activities, I've already got more than a 80. Add to that spouses that come into the picture later on, and friends of some of those friends you're closer with, and even some family of those friends as well. That adds up to over a hundred people. Then you head out to work and you get a few more people to add to your ever-expanding list. I could say the list is a genuine reflection of the people I know - basically acquaintances.

So now the question is, where do I draw the line in regards to adding people in my life? As proper friends that I would actually bother to spend time with and wouldn't mind keeping contact with that is. If anyone has ever bothered reading everything in this blog, they would probably figure out that I have a my "handful" already narrowed down. The people you love to bits and treat like your own family, and maybe even better than how to treat some of your own family.

Then there is the "general public" which I wouldn't mind setting a day aside to meet up with. They're the ones that I don't see for a rather long time, and maybe distance makes the heart grow fonder, thus meeting up seems to be a good idea at times. Somehow, there are a few of them that I've to be all fake with, and there are some that just irritates the shit out of me at the end of the day. Which leads me to wonder if these I should sometimes even bother going out with these people and just put them in the "just leave me a message" pile - the type that just has to 'update their status' to just show me they're alive.

Amy says I'm too soft-hearted when it comes to people I've made friends with. That I give in to too many people and not shoot them down enough, leading some to take advantage. Problem is, the handful know I've got a sharp tongue, and although I do use it with them, they know better than to do something so stupid as to warrant a lashing. It's just that the people who I end up being really fake with that are the ones that can't take too much sarcasm in the first place, therefore I can't be myself, and that leads to them thinking they've got me wrapped around their little fingers? Vicious cycle!

Sometimes I really do envy the fact that she can just cut off all ties with people she don't want to know anymore. I personally think that every person (and even animals) that steps into your life has some sort of purpose, good or bad. I do agree that cutting people off in your life is a necessity when the person seems to just bring you down in some way. However, I think that I should be cutting off more people and add those that piss me off too many times into the "junk" group. Most likely the people in this group wouldn't even realise that they should end up in the group because they're too full of themselves to start with. Even dating tips tell you that you shouldn't talk about yourself all the time and let the other person get something in once in a while. I think i just found out the reason why the very same people also seem to keep moaning about not being able to find the love of their lives.

Finally, the people who already left an impression but are better "erased out of your memory". The biggest problem with this group is that they've already made a big impact in your life and left such lasting memories that the simplest things can trigger all of them to come back. So I guess I've taken it well enough because there were a lot more good memories than bad, and even though I still hate how the situation ended, I find there's no use in staying angry when I did nothing wrong.

Oh.. and I can't forget the ones that are now just memories, but the ones you'd love to keep in "scrapbooks". The type that you would love to be able to share with the people you know for years to come, the ones who I've loved and lost through death, or maybe just the ones that came in and took my breath away.

Now time to figure out where people fit in my life. Since I'm in the mood for clearing things out, guess it might be good to take a look through and re-categorise the people in my life as well.

Doesn't Matter To Me

There was quite a bit of discussion the day after this piece of news was announced. As usual, there were varied views about how this cooling off period would affect the voting outcome during the general election. However, in my case, it wouldn't matter till MM Lee is out of the picture.

Even at 28, I've never got the opportunity to head to a polling station other than to accompany my mom when she did her part during the presidential election where the late Mr Ong won. For all the years I've been eligible to vote, the president was nominated, and no one ever dared challenge for control of the constituency I live in. Not to say I don't like the place I live in, but I wouldn't mind seeing some political campaigning go on here.

Maybe it's just to feel like you actually live in the same country? I guess the only other people who would understand would be those in the Marina area.