It All Depends On The Support

Amy and my aunt seem to be going through the same problem. However, in Amy's case, the victim seems to be on the brink of entering IMH, while my aunt's abuser is being treated there. Both are being verbally abused, yet my aunt seems to take the abuse better than Amy. Thinking it through, I realise that it all boils down to the support that you get with your problems.

For my aunt, the reason why she has managed to cope with it all is due to the support from her family. Especially now that her own children can support their own family, and are able to support her as well, it gives her a lot of hope in the fact that she would have a place to run to if and when she needs help. Furthermore, with my mom enforcing the point that my aunt has her children and siblings to turn to for help, it's seems to be a big relief when she gets to the point when she feels like giving up.

Amy, on the other hand, has a much bigger problem because the abuser(s) is also the same person(s) who is supposed to be giving her support. In an instant, the only person she can turn to for support is her sister, and that is if her sister can be there for her. It's easy to just say why can't she turn to this person and that person, but you can't possibly expect everyone to drop everything and tend to Amy every time she needs help. While in my aunt's case, my mom is almost always able to just let my aunt gripe on the phone for hours.

If you read her post, you can see how hopeless she ends up sometimes, and makes me wonder what else can be done to help. Other than being one of the few people who listen to her gripe, I'm not in a position to be able to support her like my mom or cousins would be for my aunt. Is the answer to her problem for her to support herself financially and just leave her parent's house? If that's the case, all she needs is to get a job to pay for the things she needs, which I think, shouldn't include a phone line the family knows about.