What is the use of having a best friend when we all die in the end? Does it not just give one more person to get hurt or feel lost when your time has come? So the thoughts might be a little bit morbid but the question popped into my head one night and I just couldn't stop thinking about it.
I guess it came out because of Adi's soccer coach, Bernard, who collapsed at a game and never recovered from the stroke he had. Well we all know life is unpredictable and if it's your time to go, you'll leave one way or another. As it can be seen on the multiple messages for him to fight through and recover, and then followed by all the condolence messages, it's quite obvious that he's touched quite a few lives. These people, however, are mainly the players in his team, and people who know him through the game. What I'm wondering, is that how many people that he'd call his best or closest friends in school have kept in touch long enough to know that he's passed on.
During my grandmother's wake, the people I saw were mainly old neighbours, friends of relatives, and of course, relatives. So maybe due to her age, or more precisely the era when she was born, school wasn't a necessity and you don't even hear stories from her about having a close childhood friend. Furthermore, she was married and already a mom when she was still a teenager. As for my uncle's wake, I wasn't really sure who was there, but I knew that there were people close to him like best friends who paid their last respects. My uncle, however, died before he was even 50, and I guess that would be considered young compared to the age people tend to live to now.
Then there's my mom's case. She doesn't seem to talk about any one particular friend she had in school but I know of a group of girls she kept in touch with till the few years just after I was born. So I wondered how many people will I keep in touch with and for how long? As it is, I'm cutting people out of my life as some are seriously dead weights and just pull u down in life. I know the people I'd like to see to the end of my time, but I'm questioning if it is even possible. Although communication with each other has significantly been made easier than before, there are times when people just give up on using new gadgets. Then there are people you know from work, and you wonder if they're keepers or the friendliness just ends once you depart from the company?
There's also the bit about knowing if any of your friends have passed on. Especially now when I don't read the papers that often, getting my news either from tv or the net, I don't really get a glimpse of the obituaries. (Told you it's a bit morbid) It's not that I think friends of mine are gonna start dropping dead anytime soon, but death is something that is almost always unexpected. I was thinking more into the future, when (hopefully) we're all old and passing our time in some nice way (wheelchair racing perhaps?), if we would even remember the people we now call our best friends? If we do, would we be able to make the effort to head down to pay our respects?
In the end, it all boils down to the fact that a death of someone I know, even as briefly as Maria (Shirley's mom), or Bernard (Adi's coach), still affects me somehow. No matter how many unexpected deaths you hear about, you still feel the bit of loss for the family once you've gone through your own.
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