I wrote about Eddie's wedding reception, the one he probably just did to please the elders, maybe introduce a few friends to Sunny, and him to her family and friends. Eddie is one person who has insisted on not having a Facebook account, and I think Sunny doesn't have one either (or I think she shut hers down). Anyway, I wrote about the day, and I posted a photo on my account for all to see.
A few months later, I meet up with a bunch of girls from that same class, and I told Angie I was expecting questions as no one else from our class was invited to the wedding reception. Not surprising, the conversation somehow gets close enough to mention that they 'noticed I posted something about his wedding' and from there it led to a whole load of questions - where it was held, was there a dinner, who he married, why the sudden rush, is she pregnant, (and most importantly) who was invited.
The honest truth is that he was married 5 months before the reception was held and there was definitely no rush with regards to the whole thing. In fact, the plan was either close to the day they signed their marriage certificate, or somewhere around the Lunar New Year period. I doubt this reception would happen if there was no pressure by elders. As he once told me, he'd rather not go through all the problems of bargaining for his wife at the gate and all that. So having a reception actually surprised me. Planning started long before he even signed the official documents as he asked about holding the reception where I was working. That was roughly 3 months before he registered his marriage. So I'm sorry that you were not involved in their plans, but you didn't have anything to offer that could help with the plan I guess.
Who he married is something you should ask him. I know her name, I can sort of recognise her, but I don't know her like a sister or a close friend. She's his wife, not mine. If I don't really know your husbands, would I really have to know his wife? From the questions, it's rather obvious that there's some dirt digging going on. Sorry I don't go digging into people's lives so that I could announce their secrets to the whole world. Plus, I keep secrets, and I have enough to blackmail some people.
Why they wanted a lunch reception, and not have a dinner one is up to them. As I mentioned, he wanted a fuss-free wedding. I guess this is as fuss-free as you can get while pleasing the elders. Not everyone wants some some crocodile tears when the ultra soppy thank you notes get read, or a Cirque Du Soleil performance for their reception, with only the photo of the whole table with the couple being the closest you'd get to meeting them. Some people actually prefer quieter, more personal and interactive receptions. Guess you would know if you knew him better?
Where he held it was partly my suggestion, and it helped with explaining why I was there. The excuse that I helped with the catering options and location made it easy to see why I was there, and also the only one in the class invited. They kept trying to find out who were invited, and I told them it was mostly family, colleagues and close friends. A questionable comment made by one of them then got me wondering about what thoughts went through their heads when they saw the posted photo.
"Oh.... I thought he would at least invite you to it"
A comment to which the rest somewhat agreed with. That got me even more curious as to what the group knew about the friendship between Eddie and this girl. I heard Eddie's side of the story, but what I wondered is if they have been keeping up with the badminton games. I got to meet Sunny in 2012, and heard that Adi spied him shopping with her a while before that. So if he was still playing badminton, wouldn't it be a bit odd if you didn't know about his girlfriend for over 2 years? Does say something doesn't it?
It also says something about you when you don't congratulate people when you find out they got married, then follow up by trying to grill information out of someone else.
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